So like the title says, I found out on Monday that a family friend died. I’ve known him since I was 4 years old and he was like a parent to me. His funeral is this Sunday, and originally I thought I saw that I wasn’t working that day. Now I may have read the schedule wrong, but I remember double checking because one time (and one time only) I thought I saw I had the day off but apparently I was on the schedule. So I looked again yesterday (Thursday) and saw I was working right in the middle of the funeral.
So I texted the group chat asking if anyone could cover me, and I got crickets (except for one coworker who messaged me privately saying she’s sorry but couldn’t do it). So today I text my manager basically saying “hey I saw no one replied and I can’t miss this what do we do?” and she just basically resent my message with an added “please reply”
No one in the gc could cover so I was waiting to hear from a few seasonal people when my manager calls me. I almost immediately went into fight or flight so I don’t rly remember the exact wording but this was the gist of the phone call:
M=Manager
Me=Me (lol)
Me: hello?
M: hi (name) so as you saw no one can cover you on Sunday
Me: yeah I saw, is there any way we can reschedule the class? I can come in on a day we aren’t normally open
M: yeah so the owner doesn’t want to reschedule and no one can cover you
Me: okay well i’ve known this man since I’m 4, and he basically helped my parents raise me, so I can’t really miss his funeral
M: well you know sometimes life sucks and you have to miss things (yes she actually said those words)
Me: okay look I love this job and I don’t want to lose it but this is not something I am going to be missing so if that means I lose this job, so be it.
She then hung up to talk to the owner and called me back 1 min before I clocked in for tonight’s shift and told me they were going to let me go.
I’m really upset but I also probably would have quit after tonight anyway because I don’t want to work for someone whose priorities are that messed up.
Am I crazy? Am I being emotional because i’m so angry and upset we lost such a good man too young? Should I have just skipped the funeral? I’m feeling nothing but blind rage rn so I could just be blowing this out of proportion. I know this isn’t AITA but any advice would be appreciated.
Anyway thanks for reading I know this was long, just mostly needed to vent.