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Apart from the fact that he is totally unorganised, messy, and always 30 minutes late in the morning, takes a day off for his kid every other week, went on sick leave and holidays in the most crucial times, never bothers to schedule meetings with me (I always have to or he asks me to), makes me self-doubt my colleagues by implying that he talked to them about me and I need to talk to them to get feedback (without him revealing the topic), being ambiguous with action points and feedback, can barely communicate efficiently (he only has a background in engineering and he is managing the communication department?), and apart from the fact that this issue is recognised by the whole team. Like APART from all that… He said I am not proactive for not reaching out to him about a meeting that HE scheduled with me. He wanted to me to go and ask him to onboard me because it’s “my project”. Thus, I am not proactive enough.
I really don’t want to sound like an A-hole for being critical on him because I know he has a 2 year old kid who is making his life very hectic (or so he claims), so I give him the benefit of the doubt. He always complains he isn’t sleeping well and affects him. Like I really can empathise with that because anyone can end up in a similar position because that’s life.
I don’t want to sound whiny and maybe I am just being a jerk, but this is really affecting my mental health.
TL;DR: My disorganized, always-late boss takes too much time off, has poor communication, and blames me for not being proactive about meetings he schedules. His 2-year-old presents him with a lot of struggles, this why he is like that. but it’s destroying my mental health, and I hate my job.