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I feel tired of my manager’s mentality and leadership style and it’s affecting me emotionally.

Also, he gives me special treatment sometimes because I'm young and bisexual and he's an older gay guy, so I guess he feels fatherly in a weird way, like, “this is my little sister.” This is not fair. I can kind of enjoy some conversations with him (though many of them are him mocking others because that's his humour), I feel drained sometimes and saddened by his mentality and way of leading and managing. I feel, also, that his humour and joy of mocking others and having a dirty, nasty humour, is affecting me in ways I don't like. I feel like I've felt prone to laugh so as to not make the interaction awkward. This is what he said to me recently about a shift I was supervising (I'm a supervisor): Him: morning, can you come in early to train someone? Me: yes. If they agree to coming in…


Also, he gives me special treatment sometimes because I'm young and bisexual and he's an older gay guy, so I guess he feels fatherly in a weird way, like, “this is my little sister.” This is not fair. I can kind of enjoy some conversations with him (though many of them are him mocking others because that's his humour), I feel drained sometimes and saddened by his mentality and way of leading and managing.

I feel, also, that his humour and joy of mocking others and having a dirty, nasty humour, is affecting me in ways I don't like. I feel like I've felt prone to laugh so as to not make the interaction awkward.

This is what he said to me recently about a shift I was supervising (I'm a supervisor):
Him: morning, can you come in early to train someone?
Me: yes. If they agree to coming in early too, let me know.
Him: she doesn't have a choice so come in at 3pm, I'm rearranging your shift so you have the necessary support [in terms of staff].

I just feel unsatisfied with management that doesn't value people's rights and their position as managers (and not rulers of people's lives'). However, I feel that this is so common – how can I avoid it? What's the solution to this? I feel like it might be hard to find another job with a better management team that's not stuck in toxic and unfair mentalities/leadership methods.

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