I've handed in my resignation 2 days ago due to my mental health taking a turn for worse… but mainly because my manager has been emotionally blackmailing me, inconsistent with communication and always negative towards me for the past 3 years. I did not state why I was leaving, just the end date.
My manager was fuming when they have confronted me, stating I have disappointed them (they said this 5 times in their conversation with me) because I didn't text them beforehand or they claimed to try and be supportive for me.
Thing is, I have requested for a demotion but would end up doing the same workload for less pay. Transfer is impossible as majority of the other branches are too far for me to travel to or the work culture is not ideal for me. When they started a template to help coach me, my manager said it was to protect themselves.
I have even told my manager face to face a week ago I was planning to resign. Their response? It's “up to me” and they claim there are others willing to fill my position. Manager even expressed that the CEO still thinks negatively of me due to a mistake I made 2 years ago without supervison. So for me it's was like they're hinting that the company does not care for me.
Past 2 days has been extremely uncomfortable and awkward when I work with the manager. They do not make eye contact with me, ignores small talks, give short response or when I am given task by them, it's is met with passive aggressiveness because I don't do it their way. I have tried to be calm and obedient as possible as they have the power to give me a bad reference, but how can I when they are acting like this?
My manager has a habit of selecting a staff as a target if they do a mistake or defend themselves. Then they hold a massive grudge and find ways to find mistakes on that person.
Part of me wished I left a lot sooner but I wanted to give the workplace a benefit of doubt as I did enjoy the work – Just having a toxic manager has given me symptoms of PTSD.