My grandparents died in the fall like 10 days apart. I loved them but they were in their 90s. I'm in my early 30s. I was sad but much more accepting of their passing. I only took half the bereavement days and my work sent me flowers to my house.
So nice. I know they didn't have to do that and I am not entitled to flowers. Of course I know that.
But in comparison to the fact that shortly after, my father's cancer returned. He died within four months. It was a nightmare, it qas clear as day it was affecting me. And I have not received a TEXT from most people let alone flowers. So of course it leaves me wondering what was happening at my grandparents death vs my father's death. I'll tell you.
I'm on medical leave. I'm not providing labour. That's the difference.
Don't fall for the in house tactics. While you are making them happy they will pretend to care about all your personal shit but the minute you no longer benefit their buisness you are trash to them.
I do have to go back. But I now feel much more comfortable saying I'm no longer signing birthday cards.