Here’s a summary of my friendship with that person: He was my trainer at my first entry-level job in a call center, and it was also his first job in the UAE. Later, I moved to a more exclusive company while he stayed in the call center field. Frustrated, he asked me for help with a job at my company. I helped him prepare for the interview, but he wasn’t hired. However, my manager liked him and promised to consider him for future vacancies which he did and successfully joined.
Six months later, he didn’t pass probation due to performance and COVID-related cuts. I helped him find another job by referring him to a different company. After some time, he moved on to another company that went bankrupt, so I helped him find yet another position. I enjoy helping without expecting anything in return.
After my third referral, things improved for him, and he informed me that investors wanted him as a managing partner for a new company, with plans for me to head operations. I offered him business advice based on my experience. He asked if I knew any candidates for his company.
I remembered meeting someone who was looking for a job for his female friend and referred her. She later met with my friend, who initially asked to meet after 8:00 PM.
And….. I was later disturbed by the news, and warned by the person I met to fix my car about inappropriate behavior from my friend.
The female candidate and friend ended up at the beach where he discussed his personal issues, including marital problems and mental health, and sang songs to her while playing his guitar. he apparently kept insisting for her to stay the night.
I called the friend to understand without attacking, he was very defensive and confessed that they did went to beach and player her the guitar. I cut ties with him on the same call.
Lesson learnt. My fault for trusting that person's instincts and also the female candidate for accepting to go to beach.