So this week on monday morning, around 5 am or so, I had a panic attack due to mental health and stress from wrok. It lasted about 20 minutes but it took a massive toll on my mental. early in the morning at about 6:10am I managed to message him I need a day off. (Don't worry, I do therapy and have been for a year or so and as for the day off, I intentionally left 5 of my 30 vacation-days for such cases)
Here's his response to that message:
A panic attack isn’t nice but it passes quickly, is not life threatening and many people have them, they are well treated with medicine and therapy. I know what I am talking about. As harsh as it sounds but waiting at home for it to get better brings absolutely nothing. What do you want to wait or hope for? Your surroundings at home are only contributing to your misfortune. Panic attacks last only a short moment. Every 3rd person has an occasional panic attack. Back in my day I went to work to have something to distract me, helped me a lot. You need medicine, sport and you need to reduce your communication with friends on the pc. You need friends and therapy in person, maybe even group talks with people.
Change all that and it’ll get lighter and easier. Staying home from work definitely won’t help. Think about if you want to come back to work tomorrow.
I have talked to a plenty of my friends and even my doc about this and all collective agree that whatever he's pulling is extremely insnsitive, manipulative or even abusive to an extend.
He is correct that I should do more sports, but that is about all he's correct about.
I had this written out to him in an Email so that he can not screw with it and twist it against me.
I think I've mentioned before, if not several times, that I have problems with depression and anxiety; as well as problems with my brain's genetic inability to process stress and emotions properly (suspicioun of autism). The panic attack comes from work, as well as the depression and anxiety I struggle with.
I'm not going to listen to the “fewer PC people and more real people” nonsense anymore, because it's simply not true. Isolating myself from the only people who understand me will only make things worse for me in the end.
The reason I do phone/online therapy is because the wait time for in-person therapy is netween 4 to 8 months or longer and the distance I would have to travel would be more than 1 hour one way.
And the way I describe my home to you is nowhere near as bad as you ultimately want me to believe. Yes, there are moments that get me down, but ultimately my parents and siblings have my back and I have theirs. You're trying to tell me that the only place where I can feel safe is apparently not safe after all.
I also doubt that you really want to have a contructive conversation. I've already told you several times that my concentration problems aren't because I'm sloppy, but because my brain isn't working properly. Instead of constructively suggesting a conversation, you took the toddler route and started with “Oh, you'll forget that anyway.”
Ultimately, I can no longer trust you to tell me how I'm really feeling.
I hate to say it, but you are the main source of my stress at work.
You can find the doc's notice in the attachments.