We had been friends for ten years predating him being my boss. He offered me a job and I was displeased with my job at the time so I decided to take it. Things were great at first (for awhile actually). The work was intense but I enjoyed it and it gave me a lot of satisfaction.
I ran into some health issues which started to hurt my productivity and I eventually had to be hospitalized. He was supportive and I was able to get back into the flow. Ever since then things have been different though. He stopped being friendly and it feels like the friendship is just obligatory for him now. I could pass it off as my own mental health issues but it is extremely clear that I have been pushed off to the side. He cuts up and has fun with all of the other employees and every time I talk to him he is short and rude to me. It feels like he is constantly looking for a way out of the conversation.
The project has expanded exponentially. They bid for a new client and really fucked up the scope in my opinion and agreed to the clients extremely unreasonable expectations. They are cutting corners like crazy to meet insane goals. When I came back they changed my role with the goal of putting me in a less stressful position. That lasted all of one month. Now I have more work than is actually possible and he is constantly on my ass about it. I’m one person. Other managers have even commented that they didn’t realize just how big my workload is. He clearly has no concept of a reasonable workload. I also have some new health issues that I am extremely worried about. He is the only person I have told and I just feel ignored. (Literally ignoring my texts)
At this point I’m not even stressed. Just infuriated. I just want my friend back but I’m worried that the damage has already been done.