I broke down into tears right after a meeting with him today.
So for this quarter I have already completed my tasks that were preplanned in the beginning. only this month left so i was planning for a vacation at the end of the month. But he decided to add 3 big features on top of it. Fine, no problem. the complexity is too high so I already had communicated that it is going to take time. But he keeps nagging me every day and I have been feeling too pressured that I went into burnout few weeks back and it’s only getting worse.
Day before yesterday, I ended up telling him I’m burning out badly, to which he said –
“That’s why you should focus on only one task at a time” – He is the one who keeps texting me to check other things, bc of which i have to switch
“My team’s wellbeing is the most important”
“Let me know how can i help”
“you should be vocal. i wonder why everyone in the team is nOt vOcAL wiTh mE” – yeah right, mystery
“let’s do a team meetup. for next month.” – Then same day he asked everyone to inform him of leaves we’ll be taking
“you still have gotten such a cool manager. you should see how those women managers keep micromanaging those people all the time” – kept praising himself
I had informed him a month prior, that i will be going on vacation. So when he said, i immediately applied for 3 days leave
THE VERY NEXT DAY!
I see a text from him saying – “why did you apply for leaves. i have planned meetup for that week. move your dates” – these dates i had selected long ago based on timings that align with everyone in my family and my bday also falls in btwn. i told him exactly this.
HE DID NOT APPROVE THEM!
And in the evening, he added a meeting to everyone’s calendar For tasks “status” alongwith the scrum we already have in the morning!
in the first meeting itself, he decided to suddenly be too controlling of everything people are doing asking them to explain their day. He made me screen share and show him my work (which he doesn’t know much about), made rude comments on everything i was doing in front of everyone. Questioned every click on the screen like my every move is just wrong. he keeps a sentence ready before i even said anything. It feels suffocating to work in this place. it feels like he purposefully tries to find flaws which he doesn’t so he starts to be rude instead
I know i have to switch. I’m already preparing to leave asap. But idk how to pass the time till then now that he is not even approving the mental health days i am in dire need of. i know i need to keep preparing for interviews so i can leave. i just needed to vent. it was a hard day