Hey everyone, I'm not quite sure where to begin so bear with me if this is unorganized or hard to follow as I've never had to deal with a work problem like this. WARNING: WALL OF TEXT AHEAD
TL;DR: Wanting to leave a new job I hate with a manager that offers no support, empathy, or coaching but have nothing to fall back on.
Context:
After working 3.5 years at a job that I liked, I decided to leave because I had not received any promotions in the 3.5 years there, and my wages were still basically non-livable. Had been living with my parents while working this job (from ages 23-27).
I had been interviewing for a number of months but still working. I ended up getting a job offer for $15k more per year, but I'd be commuting a lot more. This job definitely comes with a lot more responsibilities too.
A month in, things were fine. It's a complicated industry so there's a lot of unfamiliar terminology and other things that are a bit hard to grasp at first. I think I was doing a fine job starting out.
About a month in, my manager (who had been hired 2-3 weeks before me, and who originally applied and interviewed for MY ROLE, but apparent smooth talked our Sr. Manager into putting them in a management role) started getting more and more noticeably rude, passive-aggressive, and disrespectful to me.
It started out as passive-aggressive tones when asking for clarification on a project, to using incredibly rude tones when reiterating that my job isn't currently hybrid (despite the job description saying it was. I'm in-office full time M-F while my manager is hybrid and doesn't even work in the office on Fridays. I'm all alone all day on all Fridays).
Now, I get constantly micromanaged, status-watched on Teams when they're not in office with me, basically get talked to like I'm a stupid child and my manager is my parent, and now I have this utterly insane workload with unreasonable deadlines and my manager is constantly up my ass about it.
She actually moved her desk to sit right behind me so she could watch my screen and is constantly asking me why “I'm still working on x.” Thankfully we've since re-arranged our office a little bit so she isn't right behind me anymore, but she's still very much on my ass about what I'm currently working on, regardless of priority level.
Where I'm currently at:
I've been religiously job-hunting since this all first became an issue, but nothing is sticking. I've had probably over a dozen interviews, but the farthest I've gotten with any application is to the second round of interviews. I even paid over $100 to have my resumé redesigned and reworded from TopResume. Can't help but feel hopeless.
The unhealthy dynamic has made me reach my breaking point, and I brought all of my concerns to HR, complete with a list of complaints from my phone I had been drafting from the start of this whenever something happened. I have multiple screenshots I submitted as well. The HR director was super supportive and empathetic with this whole situation, and told me what the entire process is like and that there would be an 'Internal Investigation' into these claims.
I have yet to hear anything yet regarding this, so I'm not sure what will become of that.
I'm writing this post because I'm mentally reaching my end point and could really use some advice. This job is stressing me out beyond comprehension to where I'm thinking about it for most of the weekend too. I've been seriously considering just up and quitting without any notice, I even have a letter of resignation effective immediately that's typed up sitting in my documents waiting to be distributed. It sucks because outside of my manager, everyone else at this company is great. We do great events, our office is cool, and the culture outside of my situation is amazing.
I feel horrible about quitting with no current job lined up afterwords though. My GF and I live together and split rent, and she works three 12-hour days per week and said that if she needed to, she could move to 4 days/week while I job hunted if I quit which I don't really want to make her do. A short term solution would obviously to just get a shitty job at like a gym or car wash (since I've done those in the past) to have some income during my job search.
I get paid this coming Tuesday, which will put me at a financial level where I could afford around 4 months of rent and car payments with money in my checking, given I don't spend money on anything unnecessary. Currently only have about 3 months' rent in savings between cash and stocks.
What do you think my best course of action would be? Should I just wait it out for any communication regarding my HR investigation? Should I just get up and quit? I'm caught between a rock and a hard place here. Literally any advice is very welcome.