the deal: im out sick today and we have a hotline to call out from. it's not a rule to text my boss to let him know what's going on but it's a courtesy and i did it right after i called the hotline. i work with my boyfriend and he went in tonight and i guess my boss asked him about me and said a doctors not would be helpful. he never responded to my text about being out today but went up to my bf to communicate something to me through him. it feels weird and inappropriate to me? what im conflicted about and would like some input on is if i should text him again. here's my draft: “hi again, [boyfriend name] mentioned you asked about me and mentioned bringing in a dr's note. i was wondering if there was a reason this couldn't be communicated directly to me? i will not be able to bring a dr's note as offices are closed by the time we start work, and this is not an ER or urgent care situation. I let you know that i would be out sick today and be back tomorrow. thank you” is it worth it to send this? i feel like there's no way to say anything about it without sounding idk aggressive? i also really don't appreciate my partner being used as like a proxy for something like this or anything at all, we don't even acknowledge our relationship at work lol so it feels inappropriate to go to my bf to relay something to me. thoughts??? pls !!