I (f) used to love my job and my co-workers – especially my manager (m). I’m a manager of a department. My manager and I got along amazingly. He treated me with respect, we often went out to lunch together, and he always included me in the day to day conversations. He was my ‘work husband’. For context – we are both married and know each other’s spouse’s – relationship is strictly platonic. Roughly 6 weeks ago my mother passed away after a long illness. I took a few days off. When I returned my boss gave me a hug and asked how I was. The next day he came to me needing something. I didn’t have what he wanted but I told him where I thought one might be. He must have not liked the answer and asked it again and I repeated myself. He snapped back a reply as if it was the end of the world – in front of my staff. I’m sure I looked at him in horror. He immediately left the office and from what I’ve been told – exclaimed that he f’d up right after. Since then we have been very cool towards each other. Conversations are only business related. No lunches. No including me in meetings, etc. I am hurt and saddened. I feel I am owed an apology- not because he snapped at me – but that he snapped at me 4 days after my mother died. I can take someone yelling at me for something I did or didn’t do – but not that day. I’m heartbroken because I no longer feel like he values our friendship. Along with mourning my mother I am mourning this relationship. I feel like quitting is my only option because so much time has passed that I can’t even talk to him now. I’ve been waiting all this time for an apology that may never come. Advice?
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