So my (30m) wife (28f) works as a wholesale closing manager in the Mortgage industry. She has consistently beat any rounds of layoffs and her company is closing roughly 100 million in mortgages per month still in this market. She is work from home and has been for 3 years now but is absolutely burnt out. She has worked 10 hours a day (paid) and chooses to do odds and ends after the fact for free (against my advice) and has constant anxiety and stress where she is breaking down crying daily at this point. After all this most people would say quit and move on its not worth it.. but she makes roughly $95-$110k per year with bonuses while having no college degree and a ged. We have talked about quitting and just winging it trying to find some halfway suitable around $50-$55k as I am in car sales and make good enough money.. but I run over finances and losing half of our income (if she takes a 50k job) or all the second Income if she quits will put a world of hurt on us due to the shell-shock of not having said income.
I feel terrible as her husband living vicariously through my wife's feelings and I know that we will work through the money not being there… but I worry in this job market that she will feel worse off 6 months from now if she doesn't get a suitable job or a job at all… more so than being burnt out physically and mentally at this current job. This wholesale division is new at 3 years and she was their first hire so she has been in on every decision made.. but as the years go on and busy get busier.. they are beginning to care about their customers (brokers) over their employees. She has taken multiple steps to implement new processes and even flew down to TN (headquarters) to have meeting for a couple days trying to sort this out.. but it goes right back to a sort of shit show every month.
I know how people respond here on this subreddit but I really am just looking for more insight on whether this chapter of her life should be closed or if the current market being what it is should she keep her head down and doing what she's doing since replicating the type of Income with her education level seems like an impossible feat. I know I personally want what's best for my wife's health and well being.. but I can see she is torn beyond belief because she knows what she has is good… but doesn't know if she can handle it any longer.
Appreciate any insight so me and her can kind of have secondary input. It's just her and I so we don't have anyone else to really give us advice in a critical moment of career. Our boomer parents are the work for 25 years and you'll be rewarded type… eww
Thanks reddit.
Also side note – she has 3 other closer and 1 being her really good friend she brought over from the title industry. She has had 4 closers since January who have all quit cause of the work. Which adds to her turmoil of constantly training every month. Her friend will quit if my wife does.