Hi everyone, so for privacy concerns I’m not going to include the name of the company I work for but there’s some things I really need to get off of my chest, and additionally I would love input on whether or not there’s anything I can do legally as this is a huge company and the way I was treated in my four years of working at this place is abhorrent.
So this is a huge aerospace company full of engineers, and also contractors. Naturally, you’re treated as the help when you have a little “c” on your name tag. This never bothered me. I work in the food service sector at a small kiosk.
When Covid first happened, all of my coworkers got laid off with the exception of me and my boss, the head chef at the time.
The first couple of years were okay. My life was okay. However, like with anyone in life, shit really started to hit the fan and I just went through tragedy after tragedy.
My boyfriend passed suddenly of an overdose. This happened suddenly and not only was I overwhelmed with grief, but additionally I felt responsible because I knew he was struggling with my terms of wanting to take a break until he was clean. (Drug of choice was cocaine, but got a product laced with fent.)
I was asked to come into work the next day, even though I asked if I could stay home for another day and grieve over the weekend.
So there’s strike one of eff this company. But I stayed, since I liked my job. However my personality did change. I couldn’t sleep or eat and went through the tell tale signs of depression that happens through a trauma like that.
Unfortunately, when it rains it pours. My brother got hit with a felony for something he did not do, was all over the news, and is now in a maximum security prison. We are still fighting his case, but it’s caused a lot of strain on my mother who is already dealing with health issues.
Now here comes the real kicker; one of the security guards at work (who is married) took an interest in me. I was not interested in him as anything more than a friend. I knew he was married and he just wasn’t my type. This isn’t too relevant but he did tell me they were getting a divorce. Basically I was not under any sort of impression I was doing anything wrong. I was lonely, sad, and needed a friend.
Fast forward a couple months. I was having some close friends over we were drinking and having a good time. Security guard comes over uninvited. (He drove me home one time so he knew where I lived.) I was very drunk, in my own home with the safety of my friends. Everything was okay, until it wasn’t. Dude was completely sober. After friends left he took complete advantage of me. I was barely conscious during the entire thing.
So now fast forward to being at work. He must’ve thought I loved the whole exchange, as he began inviting himself in the back room, groping me. I asked him to leave. Eventually texted him and told him the entire thing was not consensual. Told him he can’t come into the back room as it was employees only. We stopped talking . Left it at that.
His wife ended up going through his phone. Bitched me out. Called head of security. Now I’m in the office having to relay what was a very traumatizing experience. Dude didn’t even get fired over it. He did eventually get fired. But for something completely unrelated.
Now this place gives me anxiety. Like bad anxiety. Sometimes I act like it, and in a customer facing environment, people reach their own conclusions. Now apparently people have been going to my boss with the suspicion that I’m on drugs. I’ve been called into the back office multiple times. When I explain that I’m literally just a 25 year old going through it, I was raped by a person who’s supposed to be keeping the company safe, im told to “get over it” as it’s been about a year since this all happened.
Im currently looking for other jobs. But I don’t want to be left high and dry if I get fired. I need health insurance and have bills.
I keep seeing commercials about celebrating women from my company for women’s week. It makes me sick and I want justice.
What do I do?