I got a new job offer from a company I felt really good about. The management just seems really chill and talked about caring about each others time as some people have kids and other life things and they end early on fridays and have 3 days WFH etc.
I feel really uncomfortable. I was nervous to resign from what has been a really weird toxic codependent workplace and to be respectful I had a meeting with my boss first.
In the meeting my boss offered me way more money than the new company and was like “oh that's it? you're leaving for that amount? we can pay more than that”
and then guessed where I'm going (its a competitor) and when I told him he shit on the company. He said the CEO is a narcissist and the company is “widely disliked by colleagues and clients” and “its like what goldman sachs was before it ended” things like that.. He also was like I wish you spoke to me earlier we would have happily promoted you and paid you what you deserve.
It's made me feel really uncomfortable and if you're suddenly willing to pay me 8000 more a month and promote me to the title the new company is offering why didn't you do it before?
But his shitting on my new company has spun my head around too. I hate to even feel this way because I was previously so excited. Idk if its just that I'm trauma bonded to this boss and I care what he thinks because of that or what.