I live in Ontario. My father has mouth cancer that is ulcerating through the skin. His entire chin is an open wound. There was bone in his dressing. He has maybe months to live, if that.
Needless to say, the emotional and mental toll this has taken on me has been massive. I work five days a week, nine hours a day as a receptionist in an office. I have two other coworkers aside from my manager, one works part time, so the admin department is essentially 3 and a half people. However, the one girl has not been trained on phones (like…answering a phone- she isn't allowed cause she hasn't been “trained”) and I'm feeling guilty. I was granted family Medical Leave last week that I am taking intermittently- so as needed. My manager agreed to this. Basically, if I need a day off for any reason pertaining to my FML I just let her know.
My one coworker is flakey. I don't like even commenting on this because it isn't my buisness and obviously that's the deal she has with my manager, but she calls in at least twice a month. I don't care at all- but today, she is away and my manager is stressed. And I had to tell her I need tomorrow to attend an appointment with my father and she asked me if it was “all day.” I said yes. She agreed but she seems stressed. But, this is what we agreed to. I also can't predict the emergencies that will come up at this time. So far we have had crisis level pain and bleeding (these wounds bleed so heavily many people die that way)
I am worried that my manager will start telling me days/times don't work for her and I don't want to be a brat but I am entitled to the days I ask for as per the law. She is very tight with my coworker and will do anything to make her happy. Our team has been in place since October but my manager keeps promising cross training and never can. She's a nice lady but so bad at getting her own work done let alone training us. We just aren't moving.
And now I feel guilty because if coworker doesent come tomorrow, my manager has to do my job for me. I know I shouldn't care as I'm entitled to this but when I brought her my signed medical certificate she didn't even seem to understand the leave she just took my word for it. And shes HR. I feel like she should know?
I feel so guilty but also none of this is my problem and i have a dying father to focus on