Hi, I (27F) and another woman(45F) is working as Mandarin CSR at a finance company, we were hired at the same time. At first, I thought she was just being friendly and liked to ask personal questions and just very curious about others, but it got to the point it became way too personal too fast. She asked what my boyfriend does( she saw my phone cover photo), where I live, and if my boyfriend pays for my rent and what gifts he has give me ( what??) how long me and my boyfriend been together and I confessed to her that me and my boyfriend has broken up ( which I did lie about, just so I can escape her interrogation). Unfortunately, she sits 2 seats down from me and she overheard the conversation I had with another girl beside me regarding me and my boyfriend planned vacation trip. The next day she immediately asked me about it, and than during lunch I perfer to eat lunch alone, she will start questioning me where I eat for lunch and where I'm going etc. It got to the point even when I was just staring at a blank space, she would come up and ask me what I'm thinking about.
When I'm working at my desk minding my own business, she would keep on coming to my desk and tell me stuff about others that I'm not interested in knowing about and walk away, that also made me feel very uncomfortable.
She also sent me a 3 minutes voicemail ( in Mandarin Chinese) after work regarding how she feels like I'm purposely ignoring her, I explained yes because when I try to eat lunch alone she will follow me and constantly question me on what I'm doing and ask me very very personal questions that I was not comfortable about. And than she basically said ” I'm from New York therefore that's how I talk” but that's not how she treats other coworkers, she seems like she understands personal boundaries with other coworkers. When we finally got time to talk, I told her “with all due respect it's none of your business regarding my personal life” and she started arguing with me how she doesn't understand why my personal is none of her business.
She would also point out my work attire is “inappropriate” for work, when my work attire is business casual and professional ( which everyone around me and my manager complimented me on).
I was never disrespectful towards her other than just ignoring and keeping my sentences light with her. But one day a male coworker came up to me and said something along the line of I'm trying to start beef with a woman, and I got confused and said “what”? And they would just try to have an inside joke that I was a “bully”.
At this point, I do not know how to deal with people like this.